Interesting People Enrich Me, Not Interested People

It is often said that interesting people are as rare as those diamonds so pure that they dazzle just by looking at them. You don’t have to go so far or be so exaggerated. We are sure that you also have a few accomplices of adventures. Companions of unforgettable moments and faithful architects of positive emotions. Those that make us grow on the inside and laugh on the outside.

We all have our darkness and our virtues. And all of us, we are certainly interesting in our own way. Now, between being interesting and being interested is an ocean of storms and rough seas.

How many times have you had to deal with interested people in your day-to-day life? It is almost the leivmotif of many of our daily relationships, from social to personal. And no, it is not at all a matter of cutting ties, of closing doors to these types of personalities.

It is only about knowing how to manage the emotions that they produce us, setting limits, making people see, living in peace and knowing how to say “enough”. We invite you to reflect on it with us.

Interesting people who teach me to be better

Life should be a continuous exchange of affections, knowledge and experiences. There where we all won, where we all added and no one subtracted. However, it cannot always be this way.

With interesting people you connect instantly without really knowing why. They appear in our life and we feel an almost immediate union in terms of ideas, passions and hobbies. Our worlds collide and we both win. In broad strokes we could define them as follows:

• Interesting people add their pieces to the puzzle of our values ​​and passions. That connection establishes a wealth of positive emotions.
• They expand our minds, give us more knowledge, relativize our point of view and enrich us.
• The exchange is not only one-way, but the benefit is mutual. We also contribute, offer and receive and establish continuous learning through experiences, experiences that further strengthen friendship or relationship.

It is not easy to find one or more people who perfectly match our lines of thought, passions and interests. In fact, interesting people instead of “fitting in” many times what they do is challenge us, they bring us new things, and hence the growth.

All of us need that magic that from time to time comes from outside, and that makes us get out of the lane of our lives to explore new areas of knowledge. They are very stimulating personalities, but with whom we also share the same values, and hence that subtle balance.

How to treat interested people

We live with interested people every day, and obviously, it is not always easy nor do we want to break that relationship. It may be our parents who always end up sharpening that implicit selfishness, or that coworker who always manipulates you with their subtle interests …

Those who are used to always looking for their own benefit in their relationships, runs the risk of ending up living in absolute solitude. And while it is true that for reasons of inner balance and even health, we must surround ourselves with interesting people instead of interested ones, many times it is very difficult to escape from them. What can we do? How should we treat them?

• Do not give in to the small acts or the big resignations will end up coming.
• Never say yes to something you don’t want to do, no matter how insignificant. In doing so, saying “no” is common for the other person to feel surprised and even offended. However, we must make clear from the beginning what our limits are.

• It is common for interested people to end up using emotional blackmail. “If you don’t do this, it’s because you don’t love me.” Do not allow it, emotional blackmail is a type of implicit abuse and as such, you must make the other person see it. “If you really loved me, you wouldn’t ask me.”
• You must be attentive to every word and every act. Interested people tend to be very subtle in their actions, hence the need to be vigilant so as not to get carried away by their wills, by their disguised selfishness that sometimes comes “wrapped in gift wrap”.

Images courtesy Jiwoon Pak, Yimin Yoon