Fear That Masquerades As Laziness

Perhaps, at some time, you have felt tremendously lazy to meet your friends or attend that public speaking course in which you had so eagerly signed up. A part of you wants to go, but when the time comes or a few days before it seems that laziness makes an appearance. But what if it’s not laziness? Today we are going to discover what fear is disguised as laziness.

Many of our emotions hide under others and confuse us. It is as if they put on a disguise to prevent us from discovering them and thus getting lost in an emotional labyrinth. If we do, if we enter their game and lose ourselves in their reality, it is because somehow we do not know each other and we still have to walk to mature emotionally.

Why do we feel lazy?

Laziness is nothing more than a way to protect ourselves and avoid what we do not want to do. When the day approaches when we are going to meet our friends or the public speaking course we signed up for begins, a great drowsiness invades us. It is then that we begin to turn many thoughts until we reach the conclusion that we have accepted something that we did not really want to do.

Now, you have to be very careful with this type of situation. If the first reaction we have had has been positive, but laziness appears when the moment of truth approaches, it is not that we do not want to do it, it is that we are fleeing from something. Are we comfortable with our friends? Has something happened to them? Are we afraid of speaking in public or meeting new people?

The fear that masquerades as laziness warns us of a possible danger, of what we do not want to face and about which we have not thought much until the situation is about to become reality. For that reason, when the moment approaches, an alarm goes off in our minds. What is the best thing that can happen to us not to face something that scares us and not to leave our comfort zone? It is clear, laziness.

Laziness becomes a life saver. It is a reaction to flee from fear. But we cannot fall into the trap of believing that we should actually be more assertive with our friends and say “no” to them if we really mean it. There is something we are not wanting to look at. A deep fear that is using laziness so that we stay at home and cannot face it.

Taking off the disguise of fear

Fear can be disguised in multiple ways so that we do not know how to detect it and we do not have to face it. Hence, working with our emotions helps us uncover and remove their costumes. Let’s see what we can do about it.

Let’s imagine that we have had failed relationships that have ended in a traumatic way. We find ourselves alone, enjoying our solitude, however every time our friends want to meet (they bring their partners), when the moment comes, laziness invades us. Laziness urges us to stay home.

In this situation we may think that we do not want to meet these people or that we do not feel like it. But it may not be yes. For example, it can hurt us to see our friends happy with their partners, while we have only had experiences of failure. Or perhaps, that it bothers us that they always have to bring their partners.

Although we enjoy very much the company of our friends, we are victims of an atrocious fear that is not overcome. As a result of experiences, of what we have not yet learned about, what this fear is telling us is that we will fall back into old mistakes or we will isolate ourselves so as not to have to face that unpleasant feeling.

The fear that is disguised as laziness what it seeks is to protect itself so that we do not have to face it. On the one hand, it is a protection mechanism of our mind to avoid suffering, but on the other it is a limit to our personal growth.

Let’s start doing what makes us so lazy. Let us understand our emotions and, above all, ask for help. It is important to end that fear that masquerades as laziness. Allowing it to continue will only make us live limited, and this is incompatible with well-being and happiness.