Fall In Love Without Asking Your Permission And Without Being Afraid Of Love

Fall in love without asking your permission. Stop being scared! Do you know everything that you are missing? Do you know that some of the most beautiful pieces of your life, you are letting go because fear floods you? The fear of love is very enslaving …

Say enough and fall in love with all the consequences. Don’t be afraid of love. Be brave, be risky. That time that you live will never be repeated. Perhaps with another body and another soul, perhaps in another way, in another way, but never the same. Let your heart beat fast.

Let love fill you as the sea breeze or the radiant sun fills you. Laugh, jump, be happy … Be happy with that love that has knocked on your door and welcomed you. Do not close the doors of your soul and your heart, what is it that scares you so much? Losing it? In this life there is nothing safe but death. Assume the possible losses that will happen, including the loss of love and meanwhile live. Leave the fear of love.

Understanding the fear of love

“What’s wrong with me? Why does love scare me so much? It is something that I cannot avoid, but when I notice that I am beginning to fall in love I go back … I break the relationship and I feel calm again. And it is that I feel a panic that I somatize with dizziness, with nausea, with tremors. And I can’t stand it … “

Perhaps what is happening to you is that you have philophobia. But what is philophobia? Philosophobia is the phobia of falling in love, in fact when the person tries to have a relationship, panic floods him and ends in most cases by breaking the relationship. Sometimes he realizes what is happening and at other times, he will make excuses or look for a thousand and one reasons to self-justify his decision …

A philosophobic person, faced with the possibility of falling in love, feels an irremediable fear that pushes him back. Who likes to feel that their heart beats excessively, that they sweat, that they feel dizzy, in short, that they are vulnerable? Therefore, the normal reaction is to get away from such an unpleasant situation as soon as possible …

This fear of love that floods the person seems to be related to past relationship experiences that have left a mark of suffering and pain. So when he identifies that the same thing may happen or begins to feel vulnerable, he becomes blocked and needs to flee the relationship as soon as possible as a way to protect himself against what he supposes will be a new disappointment.

How to lose the fear of love?

Phobias can be cured and so can phobia. You need the acceptance of what is happening, the motivation to want to heal and the help of specialists. There are some therapies that treat phobias such as:

• Cognitive therapy. It is the therapy that helps you to know the mental process that makes you feel fear, that is, what are your fears and concerns, in short, your thoughts and helps you to replace them with more positive ones.
• Affective desensitization therapy. It is the therapy that consists of exposing the person to what causes the panic, be it love or other issues.
• Hypnotherapy. Hypnosis can help eliminate negative associations. Try to look for psychic trauma in people under an induced hypnotic state. In this state the therapist asks the patient to let go of his fears.
• Neuro-linguistic programming. A controversial therapy that combines this therapy with hypnosis. This therapy affirms that our thoughts are made up of words, words that end up creating a program in our brain. We must know these programs that we have or have installed our parents, teachers, etc. and change them.

We can also try to face our fear of love coming into our lives.  To do this, we have to be committed to our process of change and be aware that on numerous occasions we will try to make excuses. We can also try:

• Don’t overestimate the topic. Sometimes we will visualize more consequences and concerns than can actually happen, so we must be aware of our habit of generalizing and enlarging what happens to us.
• Read about philophobia. Informing us about what happens to us and what its characteristics are, will help us understand and understand each other better. Thus, we can acquire some skills and strategies to face our fear.

• Understand why it happens to you.
• Apply emotional intelligence. The knowledge and management of our emotions as well as the understanding of the emotions of others can facilitate us a better management of our feelings and relationships towards others.
• Think of the worst that could happen if you lost that love. “And if I fall in love and lose it, what is the worst that can happen to me? Nothing… life will go on ”, these kinds of thoughts will help you fight philophobia.
• Talk to your partner about what is happening to you. Tell him without fear or shame, this way he will understand many of the reactions you have. Communicating about our fears will make others understand us and can help us.

Why don’t you put yourself to the test and stop being so afraid of love? Don’t you realize how much you are missing? All your fears are only in your head, do not give them respite … If we do not face life, we will not be able to savor it and enjoy it … If we overcome our phobia of love, our self-esteem will increase and we will build healthier relationships with others.