“You May Want To Marry My Husband “

She may want to marry my husband (and don’t know it yet). With this title Amy Krouse Rosenthal opened one of her columns in the New York Times. After knowing that her body would not overcome cancer, she dedicated part of her last words to trying that her husband, with his departure, did not remain orphaned of love for too long. Even at the end of his letter he left a small space so that love, the new love, could begin at that very moment.

It is his way of telling the world that he was leaving with the sadness of not having spent more time with the people he loved. Next to her children, her lover and her friends. She felt that what she was going to miss the most was that love, so she wanted to excuse the person she had been walking with for years from feeling that  emptiness . A hole that she, putting herself in her place, sensed as unbearable.

The end gives another value to time

Perhaps it is true that we only understand the true value of time when we have little left. When a doctor comes and uncovers that reality that until then we have been ignoring, that we are mortal. The one that our life can end now, at this precise moment and… being a blow for us, it is no less so for the people around us.

People who, on the one hand, want to enjoy the moments that remain to us to the fullest, but people who, on the other hand, feel sad at an end that they cannot ignore because fate, chance or illness has set a date soon. These are very delicate moments in which laughter is bathed in more tears than ever and time acquires a strange speed.

The people who leave also feel a great contradiction inside. They mourn for themselves by being present and are often the first to sense that their hearts no longer have too many beats. Around them they see that salad of emotions that we talked about before and they can feel very guilty for the sadness and helplessness that at times invade the people who love them.

It is normal that they also have moments of fear. That fear of the unknown that is present in our genetics. He thinks that death is a great unknown of which a large number of metaphors have been made, some beautiful, but deep down we do not know anything beyond what happens to our body.

With more or less fear, people who leave tend to appreciate being able to have time to say goodbye. Above all to thank, to do some small project that has been left in the pipeline and to make the emotional control that we all exercise more flexible. They also tend to use those days to permanently close past wounds. If the idea of ​​dying is disturbing, the idea of ​​dying with open wounds will cringe at any heart.

Amy Krouse Rosenthal’s generosity to her husband

We do not know if AKR, as stated in the tattoo that her husband Jason wears on his foot, will achieve his purpose with his initiative to write the article, or if he will achieve it by opening different profiles for him in dating applications putting in the description his experience after more than 25 years together.

What her words are is a show of generosity for a person with whom she would like to have much more time, her husband. It is also a sample of what goes through the minds of people who are aware that they move to the edge of life, and who prefer to worry about what will happen to the people they want than for what can wait for them. them.