Transform Jealousy Into Self-esteem

Have you ever been jealous? Probably yes. Jealousy originates from the fear of losing someone, although within this fear three people are involved.

To begin with, we are the jealous ones; then there is the person we fear losing; Finally, what wants to take away from the person we love enters the scene.

Jealousy destroys the couple, because it causes great mistrust. But this goes much further. Feeling such extreme jealousy betrays the jealous person as someone very insecure about himself.

Today we are going to know jealousy in depth, to understand it and be able to transform it into self-esteem. A self-esteem that jealous people lack.

My jealousy, do they have reasons?

People who are victims of jealousy often think that their partner has no reason to be jealous. If they do not give them any reason, how is it possible?

People who suffer from jealousy have more reasons than they seem, although that does not make this fact more justifiable.

To begin with, jealous people have very low self-esteem and think that anyone else, real or imagined, will be better.

Also, they are very insecure and feel relieved if they exercise full control over the other person. This can happen, especially, when the person has previously been unfaithful and feels insecure with respect to his partner, in case he does the same to him.

Sometimes the jealous person is jealous of something that doesn’t really exist. This is the result of the exaggeration caused by what we imagine, but which is not real.

Actually, the jealous person behaves this way because it causes him great anguish to think about the possibility of a deception. When you try to avoid this anguish, fear appears that is enhanced and gives rise to jealousy.

What is to be done? Think about where that insecurity comes from and put aside the desire for possession that we have for the other person. Only in this way will we be able to be happy and free from jealousy.

Trust, raise your self-esteem

If you want to stop being a jealous person or you want to help someone stop being jealous, the first thing is to strengthen self-esteem.

Be more sure of yourself, think about yourself and work on your fears. They have an origin, you must find where that insecurity comes from and put an end to it.

Think for example how much it bothers you that they look at your partner. Why does it offend you when someone should make you feel very proud of it?

People can look at your partner, delight in the sight, but then she is for you. Only for you. By your choice. Why do you think someone can take it away from you?

When you start to trust your partner and feel more secure, you will begin to see everything in a more clear and calm way. Isn’t it that you now feel more relief than with the control you once exercised?

Nobody owns anybody. We must all be free and this does not imply that our partner goes with someone else.

What’s more, if you have previously been unfaithful and your jealousy is given by the insecurity that your partner will do the same as you, put yourself in their place.

You have already made the mistake, can’t you see that anyone can fail? How can you condemn and judge something that you have done? You must be consistent.

Also, it can happen that our jealousy arises because the person we love so much has been unfaithful to us. In this case, we no longer trust her.

If we are not able to forgive an infidelity, we must bear in mind that the relationship will not continue. Sooner or later everything will break down.

Are you a jealous person? If so and you want to solve it, look for the reason for that jealousy. If we can’t solve them, we may not be with the right person.

If jealousy torments you, the relationship you are having can never be a healthy one. Think of yourself and how safe you want to feel. Increase your self-esteem and trust.

Sometimes the person we are jealous of exists only in our imagination …